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How to Change your Life

An Overview of the Principles and Laws of Change

We all find ourselves at a point where we would like to change our life, to be more than what we are, to a better way to live. If you have not felt this way, then either you have what you want or you haven’t asked the right questions yet.

Maybe you’re in the position where you want to change something in your life or to change your life as a whole, but you don’t know how, what you need to do and maybe you just don’t know how you want to change it.

Whether you can or not, depends on the belief and the faith that you can. Disbelief is what holds us all back.

You want to believe that there is something of a key, something you have not come across yet, that will suddenly transform your life to the way you want it to be.

It could be that you’re in debt, in poor health, unfit, overweight, in a job you don’t want to be in, in a relationship that’s not going well or you are alone and you want someone to share your life with, or another of the myriad of factors that affect our lives – and for each of us, those factors are specifically and uniquely personal.

No two people want exactly the same thing, exactly the same way, at the same time. When it comes to our preferences we truly are individuals.

The truth is that there is no single magic key that can change our lives.

There is knowledge and understanding, faith and belief, in a group of principles and natural laws, which, when abided by, believed in and lived by, will assist you in creating the life you want.

Knowledge – where change begins

We gain knowledge by reading books and articles, listening to audiobooks and lectures, watching documentaries and films, and finally thinking and understanding what we have read, listened to and watched.

I’m not talking about education – that’s different. Education is based on the passage of information from a teacher to a pupil or student.

The knowledge I’m referring to is based on understanding ourselves and universal laws. To change your life you need to understand how the mind works, the principles that need to be followed and the laws governing how your life came to be the way it is now.

The Mind

When we talk of the mind we are not talking about the brain. The mind is non-physical whereas the brain is. The mind is separated, at its most basic, into two parts: the conscious and the subconscious. The conscious part is the part which we are in control of. The subconscious is the part that governs how and why we do things – we cannot directly control this part and it is automatic. That is not to say that the mind is two components because it is not – it is one whole consciousness.

To make any changes in our lives, we must change how the subconscious works for us and we do that by using our conscious, through conscious effort, to install new ideas and beliefs into our subconscious. To replace old beliefs that hold us back from achievement and fulfilment.


This is something that we create for ourselves throughout our lives and it is part of what is known as the self-image. We can change our character traits, such as laziness, procrastination, confidence, persistence, and even our emotions and feelings towards a given situation, person or circumstance.

Perfection of character is this: to live each day as if it were our last, without frenzy, without apathy, without pretence.
Marcus Aurelius

The Self-image

Our perception of ourselves, who we believe we are and who we think others think that we are, are all parts of the self image. A good self image can bolster your success and you will achieve your goals. A poor self image is the “enemy within”, which will hold you back, keep you standing still and can pull you down into the cellar of your potential.

All that you believe yourself to be, all that you believe you can or cannot achieve and your beliefs about yourself, both negative and positive are encompassed within the self-image.

This part of you is embedded within your subconscious and, when it needs to, reminds you of who you are – or who you think you are.

The Ego

The ego and the self image are dependant on each other. When a change occurs in the self-image, there is also a change in the ego. And vice versa.

Our ego is who we see and perceive ourselves to be in another persons eyes.

The ego has the influence of what we think we are, who we think we should be, our position in society , our status. It’s how we think everybody else sees us. The self-image is how we see ourselves.

The Internal Machine

Character, self image and ego are all intrinsic parts of the mind and are synergistic. Who we are right now, what we do, how we do it and where we are in life, are all a result of our mindset. Our whole existence is dependant on the beliefs we hold about ourselves – in our mind. Change a belief and your life changes.

And God said, Let the earth bring forth grass, the herb yielding seed, and the fruit tree yielding fruit after its kind, whose seed is in itself, after its kind: and God saw that it was good.
Genesis 1:11

The seed you plant in your mind, that idea, that thought, that is what you will get back. Whether it is sadness or joy, to succeed or to fail, can’t or can, whatever you plant in your mind, that is what will grow in your life – that is what you will get back.

The External Machine and The Universal Laws

Everything to do with your mind you have control over. Whatever happens outside of your mind is out of your control. Other people, time, circumstances – all out of your control. But, there is a very simple law that governs that external part and it has many names – the law of reaping and sowing, cause and effect, the law of attraction.

This law dictates that whatever you put out, your thoughts, your feelings, your beliefs, it is what you will get back.

Each of us is an energy bundle, a mass of energy. We are connected to the universe in the same way that a mobile phone is constantly connected to a network or Wi-Fi, provided it is turned on and the password has been entered correctly. We “turn on” when we realise that we are never disconnected. You can never turn this off. Whether you believe it or not, want it or not, it’s the way it is. It’s the way of the universe.

The “password” is the way we connect to the stream of our life. When we are on the stream and we are not resisting the flow of it, our life seems to work out and things “just seem to fall in place”.

The substance of the Whole is passive and malleable, and the reason directing this substance has no cause in itself to do wrong, as there is no wrong in it: nothing it creates is wrongly made, nothing harmed by it. All things have their beginning and their end in accordance with it.”
Marcus Aurelius

If you’re reading this for the first time, it may sound like something out of a fantasy and/or science fiction book. It’s not. This is the way it is and the sooner you take control, take responsibility for your life and its outcome, the sooner your life will change for the better.


Emotion is the key. Neville Goddard called feelings the secret to manifesting your desires.

Be careful of your moods and feelings, for there is an unbroken connection between your feelings and your visible world.”
Neville Goddard

What you truly feel about a given situation, event, want or desire defines the outcome. Your feelings are energy and that energy defines what you will get in life, what your physical world will be.

That which you hold to be true in your beliefs and your emotions, is what you will get – whether it is positive or negative. The whole process is subjective to you and objective to the subconscious and the external machine.


Our fears hold us back from moving forward.

Napoleon Hill, in his book “Think and Grow Rich”, defined the 6 Basic Fears as Poverty, Criticism, Health, Love, Age and Death. All other fears fall under these 6, either as a whole or split amongst two or more of them.

Even the fear of failure is a composite of those fears; criticism, loss and poverty.

As long as we hold onto our fears, instead of letting them go, we will not be able to rise above the place we are at now. The old saying, “The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek”1, is appropriate here. Our fears cause judgement, prejudice, discrimination and blind us to what could be, to opportunities and lessons that we can benefit from.

Letting go is a choice. A self made decision.


Without belief there can be no realisation of goals or dreams. If there is no belief in the realisation of a dream then there will be no action. And should action be taken, it will likely be halfhearted, resulting in failure.

Belief in the process does not have to come from you; you could have faith and belief in someone or something else.

The process of letting go and letting God or the universe relies on this belief. And if you are not religious or spiritual it doesn’t matter – this law still applies to you, just name that universal energy the permeates all things to what you know. It is the point where you are willing to release control and trust that the life you seek will be yours.

Or what man is there of you, whom if his son ask bread, will he give him a stone?
Or if he ask a fish, will he give him a serpent?
If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children, how much more shall your Father which is in heaven give good things to them that ask him?”
Matthew 7:9-11

Knowledge is a continual process. Everything is accepted with humility and rejected with reason.

There is a way to a new life. The pathway to a better life requires effort, correct thinking, action, consistency and belief. And it all starts with a decision – a decision to a better way to live.


Meditations – Marcus Aurelius.
Feeling is The Secret – Neville Goddard.
1The saying is attributed to Joseph Campbell.

Photograph by: Caleb Jones on Unsplash

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