Is there a difference?
Every day we make decisions, from deciding to get out of bed to the decision of setting the alarm at the end of the day. These are decisions we make daily. A definite decision, on the other hand, is one that will change the course of your life.
You get up in the morning and you get a coffee. It’s what you usually do. But you’ve decided to start drinking a glass of water when you first get up, because you read that it’s a good idea to rehydrate first thing in the morning. This can be a life changing event, especially if it is health orientated and you are doing it for a reason. The long term accumulative effect of this will alter your health and your body.
Then there is that decision, that rather than making that single change to your lifestyle, you decide to “make a break for it” and change your life completely – the career, the place you live, the food you eat, what you drink, a full life change.
That’s when fear and doubt set in. Should I, can I, is it possible.
Unless you have fully immersed yourself in the decision and what you are going to do, it’s going to be just another “idea”, and you’ll never follow through with it. It’s the difference between moving forward with it and letting it drift away like a cloud on a windy day; a pole fixed in concrete compared to one pushed into soft ground.
It should feel like…
… a desire you can’t do without. Something that has to happen.
Any decision we make has an emotion attached to it. Some emotional connections are weak and some are strong. Take, for example, wanting some ice cream on a Sunday afternoon.
You’ve just had your Sunday meal. You’re seating watching television (like you usually do – think about this) and the idea comes to go and get ice cream. The drive to get up and go, and get that ice cream, will be balanced between the desire to get ice cream and the effort it will take to get it. It’s like a see-saw. Once the desire overrides the feeling of the effort needed to get it, you’ll go and get it.
Of course, there is also the external “motivating” factor of your family pressing you that they want to go, because, their desire is greater than the effort they have to put in (you’re the one driving). Yet again, you may have created an environment where this discussion would never take place – you are the “head of the family” and your decision is the last one – what you say goes. (There’s plenty to think about there!)
A definite decision should feel like there is no other option but the idea in your mind. The idea of “burning all your bridges” is the concept to consider here. It’s as if you’ve crossed the ravine and the rope bridge has just fallen apart. You can no longer get back to the other side. The only way forward is to go through the jungle ahead of you and deal with what’s to come.
Sometimes, however, it’s not a jungle you’re going into, but it’s a jungle you’re living behind (the hustle and bustle of daily living). The concept is the same.
Don’t turn around
Unless you have “got” the concept, you’ll stumble moving forward.
If that same bridge over the ravine is still there for you to cross back over, the minute that fear and doubt set in, you’ll turn around and go back over it. You’r going back to where you came from and you’ll end up doing what you always did before. It’s easier, it’s more comfortable and there’s a lot less risk.
There are no excuses here. There is no “perfect time” for something. It will never be “safe enough” to do “IT”. It will never be “Right”. These are all associated with failure, criticism and perfectionism. Fear and doubt don’t just cause procrastination, they stop you in your track.
Then there’s the fear of the effort to get it done, the uphill struggles to get there, because of the possible learning curves that are to come. Because you “can’t be bothered”, followed by a thousand and one excuses why you can’t, don’t have the time/money/back-up to get it done.
Where there is a WILL, there is a WAY!
If the will to get it done is not there, you won’t do it. The desire, the want, the passion for the change has to be there. It’s not always something that you feel strongly about to start with, but the daily nagging thought at the back of your mind, that keeps poking it’s finger at you, reminding you that there’s something you should be doing, will eventually trigger something in you and the idea will become all consuming.
You’ll reach a point, the pivotal point, where you cannot see yourself without that idea happening in your life. You’ve crossed over to the “other side” – but the bridge is still there. You have to burn the bridge and stand at the edge of the ravine, looking back into the jungle you just crossed, knowing that it is no longer where you are going to be. That the jungle ahead, through which you have to cut a path of your own, is the direction you have to go. It’s the only direction you want to go.
No turning back! The only way is forward.
Make no mistake, this is not an easy path. You can call a friend, you can ask for help and you can get assistance. There will be times when you need some help (a coach, a mentor, your team); get the help you need to move ahead.
Most of the time it is down to you. Putting in the effort and the hours, some late nights and other sleepless ones, but always make sure you get rest. A lack of decent sleep and rest will reduce performance, no matter how much you are driven.
But without that initial move in making that definite decision to “do”, there will be no movement.
If you need a car to get to your new job and you have no money to pay for it, you’ll find a way to get that money, to get the car. The decision has been made and the way has been found, or it turned up. That was the universal power, the universe, doing it’s part.
What have you decided to do?
History furnishes thousands of examples of men who have seized occasions to accomplish results deemed impossible by those less resolute. Prompt decision and whole-souled action sweep the world before them.
Orison Swett Marden
Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen.
Ralph Waldo Emerson