We think that we think, but the language we speak gives us away. The language of thought and the language of change is foreign to us to start with, but like any new environment, we learn, understand and apply what we learn. The process of thought and change is no different.
It all starts with Acronyms
Before I started my days of service, my dad sat me down and explained a few things to me about the army structure. He was throwing-in some monosyllables which sounded like a string of letters; at least that’s how they sounded to me.
I had no idea what he was talking about – and he knew it – It would have been the expression of blankness on my face that would have given it away. That same face is the one I now see when I speak to people about the army or the way our mind and the laws of change work.
The string of letters are acronyms for ranks, regiments and equipment I would later learn and come across whilst serving; OC – Officer Commanding, CO – Commanding Officer, “The Adj” – the Adjutant, RSM – Regimental Sergeant Major or “god”, as the rank is referred to in the lower ranks.
In your own job and career, you will have acronyms and phrases that any other uninitiated human being would think that you are mumbling your words and making no sense. You get a blank expression. You, on the other hand, know that you are not.
You understand the acronyms, the phrases, the figures, the charts and diagrams, the calculations and formulas – it’s your language, specific to your area of expertise.
The Mind’s Language
In the same way, you had to learn your job/career/business-specific language, the way we think and understand has its own language.
Borrowing terms from psychology, there is the conscious mind, the subconscious mind – some add or use instead the unconscious, the ego, the self-image, the mind – although the terms used are the same, their meanings usually don’t fall under their usual meanings in psychology.
Energy, vibration and frequency are used not to explain electricity in its common understanding, but to explain our current mental and physical states. Whether we are attuned to ourselves, to one another and to the universe.
It all sounds really wishy-washy and hocus-pocus-ish, until, when you start conducting your own due diligence, your own research, you find that much of it is backed by current science.
It’s a different language altogether but one available and easier to learn than any other language you could learn. They are new words and new terms in your own language, just a different concept.
Just like any other language, there is one element that is required and needed for that learning – the want to learn.
What stops most people from learning this, is that they don’t want to learn or they feel they don’t need to learn it. Some actually don’t, because they are an unconscious competent. There are people, however, that do not want to believe in something because they simply don’t want to – it goes against what they want to believe, their minds fixed in that linear pattern of no change. For some, it’s fear that their ideals are wrong, which means their ego and self-image would “suffer”. Here, there can be no change, until they get past their ego and self-image.
All change is mostly voluntary. If we don’t want to learn something, we won’t.
Whilst teaching English to non-English speakers, there is a distinct difference in progression between people who want to learn and those who do not. It doesn’t matter what form the teaching takes place, how many methods you use – if the want is not there, there can be no learning.
To learn we must choose to learn and that choice has to be freely taken.
“Can’t means won’t, won’t means don’t want to”, my dad would say. In life, and I’m very close to my half-century, I have found that to be true in all the decisions I have made or decided not to make. I invite you to think about your decisions and whether that comment stands true for you.
Personal change doesn’t usually come as a result of chance. I say “usually” because an event or crisis can result in change, whether wantingly or not. Personal change tends to come as a result of knowledge, gaining understanding, which leads to confidence as a result of belief that the change can happen. Other times it’s because we have to make that change to survive!
If we want to change our lives it really is up to us. It’s our choice whether we want to learn the language of the mind or not. You are in control of that choice, of any change in your life and ultimately your life.
When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.
Viktor E Frankl
A fanatic is one who can’t change his mind and won’t change the subject.