Changing your Self-Image
It’s amazing what a poor self-image can do. It drags you down and keeps you there believing that you can’t do something, be something or get somewhere you want to be. When we finally wake up to the fact that we are the main reason we are where we are, that’s the time to redefine who you are and change that image.
Unfortunately, most people don’t take the time to recreate their self-image, redefine who they are, to spend the time to write down who and what they want to be, instead opting out for chasing the material things, believing that is where happiness lies. They might bring you some happiness to start with but eventually the kick you get from it disappears and it has to be replaced by something new.
Change the way you look at things by changing the image you have of yourselves and your world will take on a new perspective.
A Case Study
I have an acquaintance who has recently decided for a new job. At the same time, they have just got out of a relationship. Neither were what they were looking for. So before going ahead with a new job or relationship we had a chat. For both of these things my acquaintance had no clear or specific image. The didn’t know exactly what they wanted.
This goes back to goals and how our mind works – it’s a goal seeking mechanism and will go after any goal we set it. But we must have a clear goal, specific, designed to the smallest detail. There was none of these; it was a haze.
The thing is, once we begin to determine what we want, where we are going, we are at the same time redefining our own self-image.
You see, everything is related, nothing stands by itself. As the old saying goes, “No man is an island”. In our mind, no thought or belief stands alone. It affects everything around it.
Our self-image is no exception. Besides, it’s not just one idea but a complex set of ideas and beliefs, that come along as a “nice” package. Whether it’s to our benefit or not is totally irrelevant to our mind. If we accepted it, then it’s in there.
So by clearly defining our goals and what we want in our life, in all parts of our life, we are effectively redefining our own self-image.
Redefine yours – Now!
I know most of you will come here, on this website/blog, call it what you want, to read something that will hopefully help you or direct you to leading a better life or creating a life on your own terms. I get that and I think that is wonderful! Because you are willing to make that change.
But, how many of you are willing to take the time to actually sit down and write down, again and again, until it’s clear, what you want out of life and how you want your self-image to be?
Who are you now? What is it that you don’t want in your life and what qualities do you NOT want? Knowing that, what do you want in your life and what character traits do you want?
Once you’ve written them down and redefined your life, do this – put them in a draw, that you open once in a while, maybe once every month and forget them. Why? It’s meant to be an affirmation kind of thing right, that you’re supposed to read every day? Right?
Nope! You set it down in writing and you forget it. Then you have to act, face your fears if you have to, to get there. As I said, it’s all a bundle. It all works synergistically.
You write it down and you Let it GO.
It’s NOT just about You
When you redefine your self-image it’s not only you that gets affected. It’s everyone around you.
What if you have anger issues and decide to change that. How would that affect your life and everyone else’s around you? Is it worth taking out the time to write it down now, how you would rather that things would be?
Or you want a new job and career? Improve your relationships and/or create new ones? What do they look like?
Einstein was right when he said that we can’t do something differently using the same way of thinking that got us here in the first place. And changing our own self-image is an important step in making that change. Because it’s what we think of ourselves.
So, WHO ARE YOU?
If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.
Just as the moth in his desire to know the flame was willing to destroy himself, so must you in becoming a new person be willing to die to your present self.